That title, to many, will seem presumptuous. I don’t feel that way. This post will anger many people, most will not read it to the end, yet I can write this post with more confidence than my butchered overview of the manosphere. I can write with confidence because I am quoting wisdom that has guided mankind for thousands of years. This wisdom has not always worked perfectly, because people are imperfect, and the knowledge/wisdom has been applied imperfectly. Keep that in mind as you read. Many people today have a hate for christianity that is truly surreal, most can’t differentiate between churchianity and christianity. The failings of christians are front and centre while the benefits (to society in general) are never spoken of anymore. I am not here to defend christians, churches, or organized religion of any sort. I am merely going to give an overview of the guiding principles (as applied to male/female relations) that is found in the old and new testaments of the christian bible, very successful societies found them invaluable. Before I can embark on this endeavour, a little bit of deprograming has to take place in your mind. In fact, the deprogramming is going to take more words than the actual sharing of wisdom. This deprogramming will take mental exercise , keep that in mind as you read, or you will just get hostile and quit before the end.
At this point I am going to change some titles and names, this is a favourite trick of the “progressive” left so I feel no guilt in doing it. I am going to do it because christian jargon triggers animosity in many people before their brain even kicks in. By changing the jargon you may have a chance to think, “hmmmm, interesting”, before becoming dismissive. Lets start with God, bad trigger word there! Conjures up pictures of an old, bearded, judgemental curmudgeon who throws lightning bolts and curses at people who just wanna have fun. Not sure why people think that way, probably a mixture of old paintings, folklore and guilt; but i digress. Just accept, for the moment, that He is the creator of the universe, and is a marvellous engineer and artist. Lets call him the Designer, so, God=Designer. Moving on now to sin, does that sound like fun? Actually that is what a lot of people think, that sin is fun, forbidden fun. But sin gets us in trouble, not just with a grumpy god, actual trouble. Lust? Std’s, unwanted babies, and soul scars. Gluttony? Excess fat, liver disease and heart trouble. You get the picture. Lets say the Designer laid out the rules for a reason, so sin is a deviation from the design parameters. If you bought a brand new laptop and decided it was ok to fry bacon on it, you would have no one to blame but yourself when your machine stops functioning; you have deviated from the design of the machine. Sin=deviate, and a sinner is a deviant. Still with me? It would behoove me to talk about a Designer without also mentioning a destroyer. I won’t call him a devil or satan, etc lest you conjure up images of horns and hooves. The destroyer does come into the picture, he hates the Designer, and he hates everything the Designer built, including you. So now we have a design, a designer and a destroyer. A destroyer who causes a deviation from the original design in order to cause destruction, sound familiar? I could do what so many other christian types do at this point, and start talking about Adam and Eve, but I won’t; much. We are talking about a life philosophy interwoven with stories, poetry, prophesy, history and genealogies. If you had to write a manual that would speak throughout history, a guide so to speak, that would relate to all genders, races, ages and cultures; how would you do it? It has to explain why things are the way they are and direct a path through life. I think the Designer did it perfectly, so bible=guide. Whether the early stories are mythology is a mute point for our purposes at the moment. I’m not going to become a “guide thumper” here, and you agree not to be a “guide skeptic”, and we’ll just move ahead.
IN ROCKS WE TRUST
So we have culled all those who blindly hate “religious stuff” and now I’m going to slough off a bunch more readers. For this to be given an honest “think” you have to deprogram that competing mythology; evolution. I can hear the roar from here, EVOLUTION IS SCIENCE YOU IGNORANT _______(fill in the blank). Yeah, yeah, I beg to differ, but I don’t have the space, time or inclination right now. Here is a sampling of some cliche’ sayings to really get ya goin’. “How can blind chance make a seeing eye” or “how can nothing turn into everything”,had enough? To those who haven’t stormed off in a foaming rage, ya gotta admit, at its base, evolution is a type of mythology; a really boring mythology. Evolution says that all life sprang from rocks, it just happened reallllllllllllly slooooowwwly. This all had to happen while breaking the laws of REAL science (e.g. law of entropy). You can spend much time on this topic, research the rest of your life, and you’ll never get away from faith. Believe in the stories told by men who dig up old bones, or believe in what it says in the guide. For us to go on, lets just call evolution/design competing theories. Why does a person have to deprogram evolution? Because evolution is being applied to everything, and its a crappy theory. Social evolution, cultural evolution, legal evolution, language evolution is all being hailed as “good” and even “desired”, and that’s dangerous. Its not that things don’t change, only an idiot would think that, but not all change is good. Evolution states that we started in the muck (ground up rocks) and we got bigger, better, smarter! Let’s just evolve faster till we’re on the deck of a starship and exploring the universe! (*cough*mythology*cough*). What we actually see, is human society going through troughs and peaks. We have had amazing societies before, it’s not technology that fails us, it’s the human heart and mind. Step down the path of the Designer for a moment and look at the difference. The designer made it good and we broke it, we deviated from his design parameters and we’re broken. We aren’t going to fix that with science/technology, and were not going to get better outside of the designers plan for getting better. Period. Its not that I don’t stand in amazement at what man can do with his hands, and brain. We can rip materials from the planet and form machines that can peer into a cell, and form other materials into machines that fling men to the moon. Don’t think for a minute that we can’t lose our technological abilities, it’s happened before, check out a history book.
LIGHT IS REQUIRED, TO SEE PILL COLOURS
Your still here, and you probably want to know how this all fits into male/female relationships? You may not realize that many of the people I alienated (by disparaging their belief in evolution) are avid red pill/manosphere types. Talking about the Designer, and pushing evolution to its rightful place as a quasi-religious belief system, is a no-no in red pill circles. Most manosphere writers go on and on about thinking with the “lizard brain” or the “monkey brain”, like it is just a given that we all sprang from rocks and have vestigial thinking patterns left over from our faaaaaarrrrrrrr past. I think the problem is that it’s fun to think like that, one can lose the moral and spiritual part of sex and just get on with putting pegs in holes. Reading a few of the PUA sites will tell you they, definitely, like to get quickly to monkey business! Any person that suggests that casual sex is immoral is considered a “blue pill’ thinker by the PUA crowd. There are some manosphere writers that are based on the idea of a Designer; dalrock, free northerner and ROCATM are a few that I’ve read.
Athol Kay, who I mentioned before (MMSL), has a very balanced and successful approach to monogamy. Reading his blogs, books, and lurking on the MMSL forum, one can see the success his approach receives. Not just for him, but for the marriages and relationships his method is pulling back from the brink of disaster! Athol says he uses the laws of “evolutionary psychology” (is there any two more “fuzzy” sciences out there?) to base his teaching on, he is a self-proclaimed atheist (although, when he was younger, he was “churched”, even went to bible school, hmmmm…). It is strange, to see that the main themes of his approach are all found in the Designers guide book! The man must be a masculine leader, the woman should submit to her man, women need to be loved, men need to be respected; it’s uncannily the same! While the churchians have spent the last four decades kissing feminist tail and making their church services Oprah friendly, the pagans and atheists have stolen the Designers blueprints and ran with them! Any church types out there should hang their heads and scuff their toes, just a little.
There is only one path that each must trod, if your going to find a mate, the couple must trod that path in unison. The Designer made it that way. Is this so hard to accept? Each sex is one half of itself, meant to be one, always yearning for the other, into infinity. The Designers guide is very detailed on the doings of mankind. There are stories of degradation, redemption, generational backsliding and warfare. Miracles in the guide are not as prolific as one would think. All content in the guide narrows to the flow of a single idea, man’s relationship with the Designer. And in all of this prophesy and poetry there is very little spoken about the male/female sex relationship! Our society uses sex for everything from curing boredom to selling cars, and prattles on endlessly about it. The rules the Designer set out, you could write on a single sheet of paper. Easy to understand, extremely hard to accomplish. Once a person clears all the static broadcasted by our modern culture, the guide is clear, it only needs to be read. Here is the scoop on men and women, as I understand it.
Man was created first, woman was created out of a man to be his helpmeet. The union of the two halves is a plan of the Designer. Contrary to popular myth, sex was not inherent in the original deviance, rebellion against the Designer was; sex simply followed mankind into disarray. After the original deviance, where mankind became his own master, the Designer laid out what to expect (otherwise known as a curse; or should that read, “course”). Man would earn his bread (living) by his sweat (no more garden utopia). The earth would fight him (thorns, weeds, weather, etc.) instead of being under man’s control. That was man’s curse for listening to the woman, she listened to the destroyers lies and deviated from the Designer’s plan and the man followed her lead.
The woman was told she would conceive and deliver her children in pain, and she would desire (want to overtake) her husband, but he would rule over her. Whew! Heavy huh? I can hear the screams of rage from here! NO it CAN NOT be like that! Sorry, it is, nobody likes it, men or woman. In this new progressive world, for every woman that will not, FOR DAMN SURE NOT, submit! There is a man saying, “no way, I’m not going to lead, that’s for suckers”, men going their own way. And yet; and yet when you shake a civilization down to its base, that is what you find. Man earning (fighting for) his living (survival) and women depending on men. If your fuzzy on this latter dynamic just remove the social safety net (say the electrical grid fails), things get savage, and women hunt for themselves the best position possible. Men just have to hunt, if both are to eat and survive. Mankind can find itself on the wrong side of eden in a hurry, our veneer of civilization is thin indeed.
Monogamy was always the plan, I know polygamy has always played a role, so has divorce, but the designer designed us for monogamy; and he designed us for infinity. Doing it like animals, or doing it with animals (or any other weirdness) just takes us further into deviance. See the guide for further details. Amid the rest of the guide one finds ideas about what men and women look for in a relationship, women look for love and men look for respect. Each is charged with giving those things to one another, freely, and unconditionally. Sex is a given, each “owns” the others body. I said it was simple, but extremely hard to accomplish. Man is the leader (he desires it deep down), that is his responsibility, and the woman must follow (she desires it deep down); that’s her responsibility. The man is responsible (if necessary) to die for his woman, (women and children to the life boats!) and woman must allow men to lead (father knows best, because I said so!). None of this is easy, the Designer never claimed it to be.
BLAME THE DESIGNER, GO AHEAD, I GUARANTEE YOU WON’T BE THE FIRST
So this is what I have found, I have slogged through the effluent of the culture, via the internet. I have read and studied the writings of feminists and manospherians alike, and nothing has changed. Our culture heaves in one direction then another, all throughout history. There is a war on, the destroyer looks to drive a wedge between the sexes. Closeness to the Designer is to be found in the union between the masculine and feminine. The destroyer wants to blur masculinity and femininity, producing mannish women and girly men. In this generation the masculine is waking up, only the Designer knows if it will be in time. Will men lead again? Lead in wisdom and humility? But lead none the same? Some will, may the Designer bless you on your journey. In my meanderings through the manosphere/red pill world, I saw a great hope; it was the women. Women who greatly desired a MAN, a man who will take charge and lead! And yet I shouldn’t be surprised, holding out for a hero comes natural to real women.
To those still reading, if all you wanted was “my take” on modern gender issues, you can stop reading; well done. To those in whom I woke a yearning, a yearning for the message of the guide, I will continue. The complex conflation between the sexes is only one problem mankind has to bear. The main problem is deviation itself. We have deviated in so many ways, and we can’t solve it, but the Designer did. I gave no code word for the Messiah, I didn’t want to, He has many names, I’ll use Alpha/Omega. He promised to save us from the original deviance, He has always been in the picture. He came once to the earth, and we killed him. It was a conspiracy between government and religious powers (and the destroyer), it was humanities fault, and the Designers victory. See the guide for details. Yes I am talking of a saviour. How many institutions, movements, revolutions, religions, ideologies, etc have claimed the status of “saving” humanity. Why not Alpha/Omega? He was willing to die, and His teaching is easy, his burden light (simple). I know there have been many who have done wrong using his name, He said it would be so (even a hindu, Ghandi, liked Christ but didn’t like christians). If you stare into history, and think about the moon rocket picture above, remember that it was a culmination of the best of western civilizations accomplishments. Western civilization was built on the concept of the Designers path (and the saviours redemption), our forefathers accepted that world view, and look where they went. Western civilization (politicians, scientists, mathematicians, fathers, mothers, etc) worked under an understanding of a designer and redeemer, searching for Him in the clockworks of his design; and look at what they accomplished. We have, as a society, left that road; and the Designer.
So where, might I ask, are we headed now???????
If this has upset you, simply put the paper back under the rock, and continue you on your journey. May your path lead you to the Designer before long.