Ive started writing this post half a dozen times and ended up deleting and re-starting. The problem is not that I don’t know what to say, but that there is just too much to say; I have a tendancy to start writing on a line of thought that will not be finished until a 1000 words are used. I have decided to break this idea into 3 posts, I’ll need at least that much to do the topic justice.
I am going to write this as if my audience knows nothing of “the manosphere” and “red pill relationships”. There is no way I can give you a full picture of what is going on in just these few scribbles, but it should give a neophyte a rough idea, and some cautions before jumping into other blogs on the manophere. This is my understanding of the present day mating game.
Women are angry, they’ve been angry for a long time, and there is no end in sight to their anger. I realize that this is a huge generalization, but if you pay attention to the cultural matrix, women’s anger is what comes through. Their anger has been there so long that we just except it as normal, a hundred years is a long time to march, shout, and blame men for all women’s problems. It started out as women’s suffrage, they wanted to vote, ok that’s fair.
Then it was the “women’s liberation movement” and women demanded to be able to…..I don’t know, force their way into all the gentlemen’s clubs? Have the freedom to spit and cuss like men? Tear all the “no girls allowed” signs off of the boys tree forts? I am being facetious, women wanted to be “equal” with men, or at least that is what they said.
Somewhere along the way it changed from woman’s “liberation” to feminism. No humour here. Feminists not only want to be equal, they want to be more equal than men. I don’t know about you, but anytime something is defined as an “ism” I get nervous. Then it’s not a philosophy, the idea transforms into an ideology. A matrix of lies then begins to weave a narrative that is backed up with politics, and the philosophy seeps into the culture; or maybe its the other way around. Change is being forced into the population, the men grumble but go along with it (“alright already! can we have some peace now? How about a piece now.”)
Unfortunately peace is not part of the matrix, it doesn’t fit the narrative. Women, through feminism, have gained the status of the permanent victim. A victim that is morally and intellectually superior to her victimizer. This is a position of power. The power to both enslave women, and use force on their behalf, falls into the hands of those in control.
Who is in control? anybody that can talk the narrative of the matrix can use its power, that is why political correctness exists. I think it’s great that women can follow their dreams, there should be no rules to what a female can naturally achieve. Unfortunately the matrix has warped the “natural” out what a woman can achieve.
The narrative has been forced on women until it becomes what women “should” achieve. The matrix has forced the feminine to become more masculine, but has maintained a death grip on the concept of the “feminine mystique”. The culture has been changed by the radical few, and any woman who wants to be “traditional” is ridiculed as a simpleton; if not a traitor. The real problem lies with the radical core of feminism, rather than the average woman who feels she is fighting to maintain her status. This poisonous core is entrenched in academia and behind the levers of power within the halls of government and justice.
The writings of these radicals is downright scary, they truly hate all that is masculine and wish to destroy males at all levels. These hate filled women and their philosophies are like a rusty drum of toxic waste in a strawberry patch, their ideas seep and poison all that is good. Are women happier now? It would not appear so. Are women really liberated? I don’t know, ask a women who HAS to go to work just to make ends meet. Do women really respect the men who went along with these feminist ideas? In a word, no. The majority of women are still attracted to the strong, confident (even cocky) male persona, more on that later.
Men are confused, and becoming frustrated. Men are being attacked at all levels and have been for generations. Little boys are mostly raised by their mother, nothing terribly wrong there except the feminine matrix marginalizes the role of fatherhood. From Fred Flintstone to Homer Simpson, fathers are portrayed as bumbling idiots that would be lost without feminine wisdom. Not just cartoons, the entire culture is geared toward marginalizing men and dishing out grrrrrrrrl power with a six pronged fork (for my rurally challenged readers; that’s a fork for shovelling livestock excrement ). Magazines, movies, books and television all sing from the feminist song sheet, and men are being taught to always question themselves.
Lets go back to our little boy, now starting school. Odds are his teacher is a female, nothing wrong with that, but, the entire system is designed with girls in mind. Boys thrive on active competition, they like it rough. Girls are not so keen, at least thats what the matrix says. Boys and girls must be always together lest anyone think they are not equal, but lets not get rough, that promotes violence. I am not making this up, schools are banning dodgeball as being “too rough and dangerous”, or something to that effect. This is not a good male environment, boys couldn’t even have “boy” scouts to themselves. Boys are being denied thier own gender, the women are deciding what boys are to be. Mostly young boys are treated like dysfunctional girls, and drugged if they’re too restless. But we are just getting started into the vortex, lets take the jump to puberty.
In puberty this concept of “equality” begins to fray badly, at least in the idea that equality=sameness. Hormone soaked teens are well aware that there is something unique about the opposite gender. Now, however, the matrix uses a bullhorn to make sure that if anything bad happens it must be caused by the male, because girls are gentle, sweet, and wise; boys are rough and violent. How else can you explain this new slap at men, this sucker punch, known as “rape culture” Ponder what it says; men promote the rape culture, because only men can rape. This is unbelievable bigotry. To get a proper perspective just change the gender smear for a racial one.
What if blacks were told to stop promoting “theft culture”, Mexicans told about “sloth culture” and asians schooled in “bad driving culture”. Rather an outrage is it not? It’s a cowardly, backhanded way of generalizing hatred into; all blacks are thieves, Mexicans are lazy, and asians can’t drive. Its hateful garbage, and so is “rape culture”. The majority of men know what they would like to do to any guy who gets his sick jollies out of violently attacking a female; just integrate the prisons (let the general prisoners get at the rapist prisoners) if you need a demonstration. But there is now a problem, the feminists have changed the concept of rape itself.
Now our young lad in college enters the murky world of females that are brimming with grrrrrl power, and a moving definition of “rape”. At one time “no meant no” but then it changed to “yes might mean no”, if she “feels” intimidated or has had a drink. It really can mean that if the party angel feels regret the next day, it’s a good chance it was rape. But our young guy is very respectful, he’s a “nice guy”. That is what he knows, to be a “nice guy”, the entire cultural matrix has assured him, that this is what females are looking for.
He has learned to suppress his inner “he- man”, because he has been told it is rough and violent, nothing a modern female would want to be around. He has been taught to jeer at the archetypical “50’s” male. You know, the man as a protector, leader, and provider. He has been taught to treat women as “equals” and to ignore all differences in thinking between the sexes. The girls all like him, as a friend, he can talk to them as equals just fine; the girls tell him he will make some lucky girl happy one day.
Our young man watches as these same girls go gaga over the school jerk, the guy who brags in the locker room about all the chicks he’s banged. These girls all take turns becoming a notch on the jerks belt, sure that this time their feminine powers will tame the beast, and are dumped for the next one in line. The girls cry, and feel used, they were sure that it was love.
Culturally trained nice guys are confused by this behaviour. The overly cocky jerks break the equality rules (by treating girls as conquests) and are rewarded with female adoration, the nice guy treats girls with utmost respect and becomes nothing more than a shoulder to cry on. Lets suppose our nice guy muddles through the school years devoid of both rape charges and lasting relationships, and gets a job.
The guy is now making money, finding a place to live, doing all the things a man needs to do to say he’s a full fledged “man”. Our guy would like a mate to share his nest with. He wants a girl he can feel complete with, share with, be open to; and he’d really like to have sex on a regular basis. He might even want a financial partner, a task sharer, a social companion, a mother to bare his children; and he wants to have a lot of sex. His frustrations are poured into his vocational pursuits and financial accomplishments, but he still can’t seem to score a significant other. Finally one day it happens, he finds his “soulmate”! At least that’s what his girl tells him, and she’s sweet and kind. She’s told him she’s been looking for a guy just like him, she’s done with all the jerks and has finally found her “nice” guy. Happily ever after should now ensue, according to the social matrix.
Since we’re now involved in their union we can hope true love ensues, but the odds are not favourable. Marriage has a coin toss chance of lasting and no one keeps track of the “lets move in together” demographic. We then have to lump in cheaters, swingers, and the ploddingly miserable unions, to get a picture of how the matrix has messed up the natural act of mating. As much as the matrix touts the women-as-the-victim, the modern version of divorce sees the males at the short end.
Women now cheat as often as the men. Women initiate divorce at a higher rate than men, and are encouraged to do so with culturally glamorous eat-pray-love style “frivorces”. Push comes to shove (literally) and all the gal has to do is dial 911, most police services have an “arrest the male” policy to domestic violence. Restraining orders against men are handed out easily in “domestic violence” cases and children are routinely awarded to the mother in divorce proceedings. Child support is almost automatic and alimony is possible, but the fathers role is marginalized by the matrix, he might not be able to see his own children. If the man misses his support payment he’s jailed as deadbeat dad, if the wife makes false abuse claims, it may take years to see his kids. Nobody is winning in this brave new matriarchy.
I know that I am painting with a push broom here, and sound like I am angry at all that’s female, but that is not the case. The majority of females out there are suffering just as much as the males. There has to be a reason that women are not happy in a union that they agreed to, and seemed to be what they were attracted to in the beginning. Could it be that they were craving a “real” man to hold and to have them? Maybe a natural female wants something beyond the plastic bobble head of “equality” and desires to be cherished? To be swept off her feet by a powerful masculinity? (If in doubt, check book covers in the romance novel section, nary a “metrosexual” type male to be found) Is it possible that what women are missing is a confident, masculine “leader-protector-provider” type male?
Masculinity is disappearing, feminism has seen to that. Nobody is winning here, except the man-hating, social engineering femi-nazis; many a feminist harpy is making a good living on the carcass of the patriarchy. The point is, that society was started on a feminist path decades ago, and the light at the end of the tunnel has the realistic quality of an oncoming train.
So now we have a rough view of the present situation, where is it taking us? What is some of the fallout from the nuked “patriarchy”? In the next post we’ll explore that question, and take an outsiders view of how males in our present society are adapting. We’ll do some exploring of the manosphere, at least enough of it to get a cross section of its psyche. And no, you won’t have to wait months to get the next post, as I’m writing all three before I release the first one. In the last post I will attempt to bring truth, and leave a paper under a rock to guide those who are truly searching for clarity, and hope.